Is it asking too much to expect the vast majority of black men to behave? I think not. But one wonders why there are so many black men in prison for murdering (mostly) each other. One wonders why such previously well-regarded famous black men, such as O.J. Simpson and Kobe Bryant, are charged with heinous crimes like murder and rape. One wonders how a once-promising boxer, such as Mike Tyson, becomes a walking cautionary tale in crime and waste of money. One wonders why so many black high school seniors are functionally illiterate. One wonders why black parents will blame the state if their children can’t pass the third grade.
How did the illegitimacy rate for black children become so high? When did it become the norm for black men to abandon their children to be subsidized by the state, by solely women or by grandparents?
And how are the misbehavior of black men and the illegitimacy of black children related? Answer: black women. The government has become their husband. Government programs have lured many black women into the short-sighted belief that they need no real man to support themselves and their children, but that is just the tip of the iceberg. The whole iceberg is this: black women allow black men to behave in any fashion, believing (correctly) that there is a shortage of black men and believing (erroneously) that any man is better than no man at all. He may be a drug-addict, an ex-con, a gang-banger, or a down-and-out type with no money, no job, no home, no education and no prospects, but he’s “better than nothing.”
This phenomenon even stretches to famous black men, like Bryant and Simpson, who have not married black women—and, in Simpson’s case, insulted black women as mate material: “I don’t shovel no coal.” (Note: I have nothing against people marrying with whom they wish. Simpson could have simply married Nicole Brown or whomever and left it at that; without murdering her, of course.) A black man may be rich and successful and may look down on black women in general, but black women will support him if he gets in trouble with the law. A proxy black man is better than no man at all. “Even if you stray, you can always come home if you get in trouble.” Yeah, sure.
As a result of this astounding leniency, a lot of black men have begun to believe that they can behave in any manner. They think that they’re this highly prized, rare commodity that is so valued, that they are exempt from the standard of real manhood. What’s a real man? A real man is the faithful husband of one wife, the father of legitimate children, the teacher and disciplinarian of those children, the companion for that wife and the provider for that wife and those children. Of course, there are good men of all races who fall short of these ideals, sometimes, through no fault of their own. But when such a large portion of a group falls so miserably short, there’s a problem.
The problem is circular in nature. Were there not so many fatherless black children, there wouldn’t be so many black men that think that it’s okay to abandon their responsibilities as fathers. There wouldn’t be so many black men who--having grown up without the manly guidance of fathers--believe that it's acceptable, even expected, to have illegitimate children. Were there not so many fatherless black children, there wouldn’t be so many black women who--not having had fathers themselves--would think that their own children need no fathers.
Somebody has got to stop this cycle and I vote for: black women. We have to say, ‘enough.’ Outside of the nutcases, a man will only behave in a manner that a woman allows him to behave. If enough black women stop complaining about ‘no-good black men,’ all while spreading their legs and reproducing for them, this shit will come to a screeching halt. If enough black women would stop making excuses for their trifling sons and their wayward daughters that are already here, there will be some hope for the black American generation to come.
About real men: there’s nothing that makes me shake my head in disgust more that a ‘girly-man.’ No, I’m not talking about homosexuals. I’m talking about “men” who think that their every misfortune is someone else’s fault. I’m talking about “men” who leave their responsibilities for others to take care of, whether it be children, debt, etc. I submit that the men who drop babies hither and yon, who have allowed the state to raise their progeny, and who refuse to marry the mothers of their children are girly-men or ‘punks’ in the ghetto meaning of the word.
Whose fault is it? Ours. Who can stop it? We can. The big question is: when?
