Thanks for the link, Ilyka, and the implied compliment.
As for the subject matter, however, as they say in my neighboring environs, “I ain’t even trippin.’”
Having been in the military, I was around a larger cross-section of men than the average woman and from that I’ve come to this earth-shaking conclusion: men and women are different. Live it, learn it, love it. Or at least accept it. Their respective attention is drawn by different things. Those things may overlap in some areas and be divergent in others, but, on average, the difference is in evidence plainly enough.
Our wonderful guys are visual creatures. That’s why their heads reflexively turn when something pretty walks by, not because they’re going to leave you for said pretty something. I, for one, like them that way. You average guy has a tendency to give precedence to a pretty female face framed by long, beautiful hair over a hard masculine one with short hair? Well, duh. (Keep in mind that these words are coming from a woman who has her head shaved every so often.) If a guy likes me for my face—or other stuff--I’m certainly not going to wish it were otherwise. However, if said gentleman thinks that there’s nothing behind my outer self, he’s in for an awakening. Whether it’s a rude one or not is not my problem.
Lose the Church’s “I’m in therapy for ever” feel. Yes, yes, we’re all a work in progress but the co-dependant, extended womb the Church has wrongfully created has allowed congregants to not get a life because of some difficult doo-doo in their lives. Sure life’s hard, little Sally, and the sooner, we celebrate the struggle the quicker we will draw men back to our houses of worship. [SNIP]
One last word for the young Christian man: Do you want to grow up quickly? Then leave mommy’s familiar, safe haven and venture out into the danger zone. As Leon Podles said, Go find your Holy Grail; go meet the strange, meet the unfamiliar. Protect people; lead people; rescue people. Fight inequities and absurdities. Beware, young man, of parents and pastors who want to ‘mother’ you. Avoid the secure; Fear over-protection; and happily accept the masculine task of the patriarch, the prophet, the warrior and wild man.I’d been thinking the same thing for some time now. Oh and, btw, Pastor Giles is rather easy on the eyes. :-D He even uses a slang word for men that I’ve used in the past. See if you can spot it.
Women: men are not large, hairier versions of us. If a woman wants that, she should try an “alternative lifestyle.” Not down with that? Me neither. So stop complaining when guys act like guys and not like your best girlfriend.