My aunt and I joke that there are three kinds of men. If either you or he wants to leave, the first kind will merely just leave and drown in his beer or get another wife in two months.
The second kind will clean out the bank accounts and try to take the house.
Then there’s the third kind. Regardless of who it is that wants to leave, he’ll shoot you, the kids, the dog, the cat, the fish, your mama—if she’s unlucky enough to be there at the time—and, finally, himself, if it’s you that wants to leave. If it’s he that’s tired of you, your body might end in up pieces somewhere waiting for police dogs to sniff it out.
To get married these days outside of strong spiritual guidance is like playing Russian Roulette; literally, in many infamous cases. You know the person you married, know what she/he would do and wouldn’t do. You think you know, that is.
Then you’re falling over a cliff emotionally and, instead of being your lifeline, they give you a push. Or they have you killed.
I feel blessed. My ex-husband wanted the divorce and was the first and second kind of guy. Fortunately, my assets were well covered and though I don’t think he would have tried to kill me, I did change the beneficiary of my Serviceman’s Group Life Insurance immediately; just in case he was thinking of a more permanent solution/dissolution.
(And yes guys, there are dirty women but you can and do write about them on your own blog.)
SALT LAKE CITY — Mark Hacking (search) has been arrested on suspicion of murdering his pregnant wife Lori Hacking, Salt Lake City Police said Monday.
"We believe Mark Hacking is responsible for her disappearance and death," said Police Chief Rick Dinse at a news conference.Humans have been icing each other since antiquity. However, there’s something that’s particularly horrifying about spousal murder as opposed to murder by a stranger. The Devil isn’t just outside your locked front door. He’s in your house, in your bed, being intimate with you, having children with you and raising them.
Only child molestation/murder exceeds spousal murder on the disgust/fright-meter.
Those of you who have had your trust so callously betrayed by someone who not only claimed to love you, but promised to do so forever can feel this one. It’s bad enough when they cheat, try to put you in the poor house and/or play games with the offspring of the union.
Murder raises the game onto a whole different playing field. Oh, sure, those of us who’ve been married, present and past, make jokes about it, but committing the actual crime is something that speaks of some real Evil: a love turned to a hate so virulent that not only do you murder the object of your love/hate, you cut their body up in pieces so small that it can hardly be found.
Saint Paul said that if you’re a Christian and you have an unbelieving spouse, to stay married if both parties wish to do so. However, if the unbeliever wants to leave, to advise him/her to not let the door hit him/her in the backside.
What to make of those who lean on their own understanding of the world? What to do with those who do what’s right in their own eyes? If you’re a Christian, don’t marry them. And if you’re not, I would assume that you’ll do what’s right in your own eyes and at your own risk.
